Defensiveness is a maladaptive defense mechanism in response to someone giving you feedback that you perceive as critical. There is an overwhelming urge to protect yourself when you feel hurt, shame, ...

Of the many saboteurs of effective communication, defensiveness is one of the most destructive. When relationship partners react defensively with each other, they will be unable to hear any viewpoint ...

Two people are angry. Harsh words fly. Defenses rise. And after the argument ends, both retreat into lonely corners—hurt, disconnected, and still simmering inside. Most couples know this painful ...